xX_Kiefernholz_Xx wrote:
If it's in a transactional situation, easy: Finish the transaction, and do not mention anything about their DNI or continue to interact afterwards.
This is what I always do with ANY client, but it still puts me in an EXTREMELY awkward position.
xX_Kiefernholz_Xx wrote: If you are on their DNI and don't feel comfortable interacting with them knowing you're on their DNI, great, just refund them and decline.
Turning their business down is rather rude and just....not a good way to stay in business lol. It's not uncomfortable, it's just awkward.
Transaction issues aside, there have been people that have followed my art page or offered me trades on CS where I'm into a certain piece of media or a member of a subculture that's on someone's DNI.
It's awkward to tell someone who approached you first, "Sorry, we can't talk. I'm on your DNI list." It's arguably more traumatic to keep bringing these things up to people rather than most likely never have a conversation about X thing to begin with.
Perhaps my social anxiety is playing a big role in how I perceive these sorts of things. I'm a rather private person and I don't want to disclose certain information on people's DNI list but also don't want to ignore people because people get annoyed at that, too.
(And if I don't disclose what it is, will the person just assume it's the worst examples on their DNI list? idk, just another worry I have lol )
Just saying that if someone approaches me and I'm on the DNI list, it's a lose-lose situation for everyone involved. Not having one, we probably wouldn't even talk about said issue.
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Edit: I'm beginning to realize just how much my social anxiety is affecting me in situations like this. This is something that I'll personally have to work on.
I always feel like I owe everyone an explanation, especially if I feel like I'm being "rude" for "ignoring" them.
Still awkward, but something I'll have to learn how to navigate. Thanks for letting me explore this idea a bit.